I have read many articles on depression. And being a psychology student, I can say most of them are extremely helpful.
These articles usually talk about there are signs and if we pay enough attention, we can notice who is battling with depression and who is not. According to American Psychiatric Association (APA), Depression (major depressive disorder) is a common and serious medical illness that negatively affects how you feel, the way you think and how you act.
There are signs that if observed carefully, can be identified. In India, mental health has just started getting important for the general public. Even now, in several rural (and even urban for that matter) areas, people live in utter denial of there being such a thing as mental health. In a study, it was seen that 1 out of every 3 school children withing the ages of 13-18 were struggling with some sort of mental illness. A major chunk of these kids, suffer from depression. Seriously! This is the age where children have the right (literally) to be children! Play outside with friends, making new aqaintances, talking comfortable with their sexual preference and even create some harmless ruckus of their own!
This is not the age where kids should be burdened to study so hard that they don’t know what to do with their free time i.e. if they get any. They should have the freedom to explore their fields of interests. Even if they are childish, let them be! Instead of expecting something that is practically impossible for them to achieve, ask then what they want to become. Because if we don’t let kids be kids, we are basically pushing them towards the edge. Don’t expect them to be mature at such a young age that they lose sight of what they are actually supposed to be.
“But we provide you with a comfortable lifestyle. You have everything! You don’t have a right to complain. Neither do they have a right of having a mental disorder!” These are some of the many common dialogues parents or guardians use when a child tries to talk to them. Again, most of the parents are supportive and they indeed try to help their child as much as they can. But there is still a huge chunk of people who go around throwing these phrases at their kids.
People, when your child tries to talk to you about their mental health, please don’t tell them you are busy. Please. And even if you are busy, think about this. All the efforts and hard work you put in, is ultimately for your little one’s benefit. What will you do with all the money and success if you don’t have your own child with you at the very end of your journey of success. Who will you share your happiness with if they are no more?
To have a healthy child parent relationship, oneust be open to communicate. Talk, listen, and then form a judgement regarding your child. You never know what your child is going through. Show physical affection. Spend healthy time with them. Tell them your life stories. Make them laugh. Make them happy. Make them feel like they are not alone. Like you are there for them. There with them. If they come to you with a problem, try to give them a healthy advice.
We don’t realize this but parenthood is what is responsible for building the kid’s personality. If you spoil them with too much love, they will grow up to become brats. If you ignore them, they will ignore you. If you maintain a healthy balance, they will be loving and smart at the same time. Just talk to them.. It’s really important that we do that now before it’s too late.